You’ve made the brave decision to get sober, and now, you’re ready to take the next step. You might have heard about Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and were suggested to attend. Still, the idea of walking into a room full of strangers and talking about your drinking might make your heart race a little. That’s completely normal. Everyone in that room has felt that same mix of nerves and uncertainty at their first meeting.
AA meetings are welcoming spaces where people share their experiences, offer support, and remind each other that recovery is possible—one day at a time.
What Happens at an AA Meeting
Every AA meeting is a little different, but the purpose is always the same: to help people stay sober and support others in doing the same. Meetings may take place in churches, community centers, or even online.
At the start of the meeting, someone will usually read the AA Preamble, which explains what the group is about. Then, they might read a portion from The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, the main text of AA. From there, the format depends on the type of meeting:
- Open Meetings. Anyone can attend—family, friends, or anyone curious about AA. These meetings often include speakers who share their personal stories of addiction and recovery.
- Closed Meetings. These are for people who identify as having a drinking problem. The group may discuss a topic like honesty, gratitude, or a particular step from the 12 Steps.
- Step or Tradition Meetings. The focus is on reading and reflecting on one of AA’s 12 Steps or 12 Traditions.
- Speaker Meetings. A member shares their personal recovery story, followed by open sharing or discussion.
You’ll notice that meetings have structure but also warmth. People greet each other with smiles or hugs. There’s no judgment—only understanding. Some meetings end with everyone standing in a circle, holding hands, and reciting a closing prayer or affirmation, like the Serenity Prayer.
How to Prepare for Your First Meeting
You don’t have to do much to get ready—just show up. That’s often the hardest and most important part. But a few small things can make the experience easier:
- Arrive a few minutes early. This gives you time to find a seat, grab a coffee, and settle in before the meeting starts.
- Be open-minded. The first meeting might feel unfamiliar, but try to listen with an open heart. You might hear something that resonates deeply.
- Leave expectations at the door. Some people find immediate comfort; others need a few meetings before they start to feel at home. Both are okay.
- Take what you need and leave the rest. You might not connect with every speaker or topic, but you’ll hear something that speaks directly to your situation.
Do You Have to Speak, or Can You Just Listen?
This is one of the biggest questions newcomers have, and the answer is simple: you don’t have to say a word if you don’t want to.
At your first meeting, it’s completely okay to sit back, listen, and observe. When it’s your turn to introduce yourself, you can simply say, “I’m [first name], and I’m just here to listen today.” That’s enough. No one will pressure you to share more than you’re comfortable with.
Many people spend their first few meetings just listening. Hearing others talk about their struggles and victories can be incredibly powerful. Over time, you may feel ready to share your story, and when you do, you’ll find the group responds with compassion and encouragement.
How to Find a Local Meeting
Finding a local meeting is easier than you might think.
- Ask for help. Your counselor or sponsor can help you find nearby meetings that fit your schedule.
- Use the AA website. Visit Find AA Near You on the website. You can use the meeting finder to search by city or zip code. You can also filter by time, type of meeting, or whether it’s online or in person.
- Check community boards. Libraries, churches, and community centers often have AA meeting schedules posted.
It may take a few tries to find a group that feels right. Every meeting has its own personality. Ypi may notice that some are more laid-back while others are more structured. Don’t be afraid to explore until you find the one that feels right for you.
At Mountain Laurel Recovery Center in Westfield, PA, we believe that community and connection are key to recovery. AA meetings give you a space to grow, learn, and be supported by others who truly understand. Every meeting you attend helps you strengthen your commitment to sobriety and build the foundation for a healthier, more hopeful future.